In May of 2007, the news of the sudden end of my once storybook marriage to Hong Kong movie star Moon Lee was shocking in many ways. Most disturbing was the fact that a wife and mother who had been held to such high esteem and who had represented Chinese art and culture so admirably would choose a path that would ultimately make her become one of the most demonized women in the history of modern China.
This is not simply a book about scolding or blame. This book’s purpose is to revisit events and facts in a way that provides insights to understand more about human nature. Both the magnitude and the uniqueness of the tragedy that Moon Lee had brought upon herself and her family have created an opportunity not to punish her but instead to learn from the experience. So much anguish and suffering have been inflicted that there must be lessons which can benefit all those involved with extra-marital affairs in one form or another. However, Moon Lee’ s unreasonable denial of the facts and her vicious blame on the innocent must make this effort of enlightenment extremely confrontational to her. Indeed, it would be impossible to reveal the truth without making Moon Lee look bad. That result is not caused by my actions but rather Moon’s willful misconduct. However, the combination of duration, incestuous quality, and involvement between employer and junior employee in Moon’s affair creates a unique opportunity to study the complexities of human thought and desire in the setting of an aberrant sexual relationship. Rather than just dispelling the story as a simple nuance of passion gone amiss, there are indeed lessons that can benefit us all. It is not that other women would be likely to enter an ill-conceived relationship like Moon’s and therefore need to read her story to avoid making a similar mistake. Even though her actions and her absurd denials reveal an unprecedented dark side of human nature, they still can provide clues to prevent us from crossing the line from good to evil. And the last reason for me to write and assemble this book is based on the need for Chinese people to be more challenged by an open debate on the taboo subjects of extra-marital affairs and illicit passion.